Carrying the children on a leash: advantages and disadvantages
What experts and parents say about wearing a leash with children
Surely you have seen it in a shopping center, or in the street, always in crowded places: parents who carry their son on a leash. Perhaps you have been surprised, or outraged, or on the contrary, you have thought: ‘Wow, what a good invention, so do not get lost’.
There are two aspects: those who defend this way of making sure that the child is not going to get lost and those who lay their hands on their heads warning about their supposed psychological sequels. Here are the advantages and disadvantages, the pros and cons of carrying children on a leash.
Pros and cons of carrying children on a leash
Many parents use a leash with their child when they go to crowded places. Yes, that leash that other parents used in their day to prevent their son from falling at the moment he started walking. But it’s different. Your son knows how to walk. It’s more … it’s just at that age when they need to discover everything. To avoid losing (think many parents), nothing better than a strap, which ensures that your child is by your side, but without the need to be glued to a hand. However, the image is really … humiliating? Here are the opinions, in favor and against wearing the children’s leash:
– In favor of carrying children on a leash: Parents who use this system are very clear: they prefer to withstand criticism from other parents and avoid losing your child in the middle of a large crowd. Could they choose to give them a hand? Yes but not the same. They ensure that in this way the child has more mobility than if it remains attached to a hand. This dad (Clint Edwards) writes on his Facebook wall ‘No Idea What I’m Doing: A Daddy Blog’, why he decides to put a leash on his daughter Aspen, 3 years old. He goes on to say that his daughter is so restless, that if she did not, she would end up putting herself in danger or disappearing, and that it would practically be impossible for them to go to any shopping center or a place with a large crowd of people. Faced with the criticism he received in this viral message, he replied with a: ‘If you see someone using something like that, it is for a good reason. Do not make assumptions. I am his father and I know this girl well to know that she needs her. So trust us. ‘
– Against leashing children: How do other parents respond to those who decide to wear a leash with their children? Because not everyone sees it well, of course. Many see it as an aberration, and urge parents who wear the belt with their children of 2-3 years, to try other methods, which go through empathy, education or many other resources.
Some psychologists have not been slow to alert about the possible consequences that this simple gesture can leave in the subconscious of children if it is something that is done against their will. For many of them it is a bit ‘humiliating’ to walk tied to a leash, however elastic and long it may be. However, it can be a good resource, they say, if this is something that is done by mutual agreement. In addition, to use the strap, the experts give some advice, such as not using the strap as it is done with an animal, or pull it, but use it only to have located the child and to have it under surveillance.
And since this topic is controversial and involves positioning, here is my humblest opinion: where is the physical contact and the hand or arms of a father or a mother, who takes off the leash. It will be for what it represents, as well as the bars, but nothing that supposes a confinement or attachment to freedom seems to me a grave error. Every child is a world, of course, and every parent is entitled to use the methods that he believes appropriate. But I, I already say, I have not done it and never would.